Simplicity is ideal!

“I was amazed at the simplicity and ease with which the author teaches us to apply these ideas and tips in our lives.” ~ Reviewed by Joy Hannabass for Reader’s Favorite

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Dark days with sunshine

If you have a constant barrage of doom filled days, maybe working really hard to see the sunlight could help.

Sometimes we get so fixated on what is WRONG, we forget to give thanks for what is RIGHT.

Take a minute and look for the sunshine in the midst of the darkness. That smile, a breath taking view or a cool breeze on a warm day….

Taking a minute to appreciate something good may help break the cycle.

Keep searching. It’s there. I promise.

Time heals all wounds

Time healing wounds is a difficult concept. As humans it seems we are predisposed to believing things will always be one way or another when life is difficult.

For those that suffer panic or anxiety disorders, it seems like this trait is exaggerated even more so. It is difficult to look past the anguish of the moment to realize that it will pass. It is nearly impossible to view the possibility of getting better when many hours are spent in torment.

The important thing is to remember that nothing lasts forever.

Maybe the most beneficial way to move past those moments of tunnel vision is to focus more on the days you felt good. It is easier to focus on what we are feeling in the moment but when you force yourself to remember what it was like BEFORE panic or anxiety took over, it is easier to imagine that you will get back to that point again.

Its like having a paper cut. The more attention you give it, the more painful it becomes but if you clean it up and move along it is less likely to be such a big part of your day. Perhaps some day you can view panic and anxiety the same way. Annoying but survivable.

Keep moving!

 

Panic

When I talk with people about my book, it gives them a sense of safety to share their plight with panic or anxiety.

So many people in my day to day life are sharing the when’s and how’s of their brushes and in some cases downright affliction with these terrible disorders that it causes me to question the current statistics.

One in seventy-five people have or have had anxiety. I argue that it’s considerably higher. I believe many don’t seek help or discuss it for fear of labeling.

My own struggle would have remained supremely private had it not gotten to the point that my doctor suggested an informal meeting with an expert. Once I briefly met with the expert, I vaguely understood what was happening and was reassured that I was not that one unique case with symptoms no one had ever seen. I went back to learn more.

It was my amazing family doctor that pushed me to own my panic. Sure, he could have offered magic pills and had I been a patient that was open to meds, he would have but would have still pushed for resolution instead of just medicating the symptoms.

Out of the 20 people that have shared, one, like me, has gone the natural route. It took years to resolve and was one of the hardest fights they have ever had but they feel that opting to not use meds fit better for them.

I hear Meds make the fight easier. It makes your threshold for the daily grind on your nerves a little higher while lowering the threshold of the actual grind. I’ve been told it can bring you to a four out of ten so you can function better.

When you are in the heavy muck of it I don’t think there is a right or wrong way to deal with panic. I think you learn better methods as you become more familiar with what is happening and what has proven to be the best strategies. Education to all of the different coping methods is key.

There are ways that help you relieve your symptoms so you can get a break, like avoidance. But ultimately that method allows panic to linger longer.

There are meds that step in and either reduce an attack after the fact or maintenance meds that help “prevent” them altogether.

There are also education and coping methods that help you “eliminate” panic from your life.

None are fool proof and all require the sufferer to decide what fits their lives. Maybe a combination works best for me but meds alone work best for you. Panic seems to be a common unique experience for sufferers. Symptoms can be run of the mill where resolution is less uniform or more personally tailored. It’s not like a common flu where a mass produced shot will insulate you. Your treatment has to be based on the total you.

Regardless of your choice I can tell you that seeking guidance is crucial. Googling symptoms can have profoundly negative consequences.

Dr. Google is full of bad news and extreme scenarios that don’t likely apply to you. Seek help from a living breathing IN person person.

You CAN stop panic. It just takes some practice.

Move forward

When life becomes difficult you have two choices. Give in or move forward.

Unfortunately there are situations in life that require us to give in in order to move forward. Things such as ending an unpleasant relationship either in business or personally, closing the door on a losing business venture or changing a troubled environment.

You are not “quitting” or “giving in”, you are altering your choices to hopefully move forward in the best way you know how.

The important thing is to realize that your “mission” in life may not be what you think it is. You may not be destined to be the top salesperson or the lead in the play. You may be destined for other things and in order to get there, you have to let go of the ones that don’t fit.

Maybe instead of the top salesperson you are supposed to be the top caregiver for an elderly person who has no one. Maybe instead of a lead in the play you are supposed to be the lead counselor at a camp for disabled youth.

It may not be where you see yourself, but maybe it is where you will do the most good and find the most personal value.